Dwelling on Rejection Is an Addiction You Can Quit

Dwelling on Rejection Is an Addiction You Can Quit

1. The Idea

Academics are great at dwelling in misery. Rejections, evaluations and all kinds of setbacks come with a career that is inherently challenging. Don’t let that negativity become an addiction. Consciously think about your future and create a positive vision of it.

2. Related Quote

“The best way to predict the future is to invent it.”

Alan Kay

3. Why This Matters to You

Your career runs on rejection. Papers come back with harsh reviews, most grant applications go unfunded, and teaching evaluations land in your inbox every term. If each one pulls you into days of brooding, you lose writing time, you resubmit later, and you start skipping the ambitious calls that could change your path. A clear picture of where you want to be in five years puts each setback into a longer story. Your doctoral students also watch how you handle rejection, and they learn to handle their own first ones the same way.

4. Counter Viewpoint

Yet some dwelling is useful. A painful review often holds the critique that makes the next version better, and moving on to positivity too fast can mean missing that lesson. A bright vision of the future can also feel hollow when the job market is brutal and contracts are short. So where does honest reflection end and the habit of misery begin?

About simo 

Simo is an award-winning professor, research group leader, and builder who wants you to kick butt in academia. He writes about the simple systems that make research easier and the days a lot more fun.

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